Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs (Not)

Hey playa,

I was thinking about what makes me attracted (romantically and platonically) to a person. Like what are the traits that I love for myself and others? And I came up with a list.

At the base, we have confident and passionate. If I feel these traits from them, it's an automatic yes. I think these are the most important traits. Every person that I fell in love with head over heels was when I could feel their confidence. There is just an aura that exudes from confident people that I find exhilarating. And that usually coexists with strong passion. Like yes, have a strong sense of what brings you joy and talk your shit. 

In the middle, we have funny, flexible, and smart (in any realm). These are like oh hell yeah. Like when you ask for ranch and they give it to you for free when you thought they were going to charge you. I think these traits are like the bare minimum for me to keep you around. It's like the ingredients in a sandwich. Without it, you're just two pieces of bread. 

And for niche traits, we have good gift giver, doing small things for me without having to ask, a down ass b, and in tune with themselves. These are the cherry on tops. Do you know who you are? Do you show up? Can I rely on you? Stuff like that. If I experience these traits from them, they get a special seat in my brain. 

These are all traits that I try to embrace myself because that's what I find attractive. And who knows, this list might change in 2 years. But I'm going to live my truth in the present. 

#28 

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